It is through our emotions that we are able to perceive the masculine and feminine energies of prana as they enter our aura through our chakra system. The experience of intimacy is largely based on our ability to consciously perceive these waves of energy in movement.
|Fifth Chakra- Masculine
Expression of emotion through communication and creativity
Integration of masculine energy down into third dimensional male/female energy field
|Sixth Chakra- Feminine
Reception of power through visions and higher guidance
Integration of the masculine/feminine and human/divine within us
Reception of emotions as energy in motion
Integration of feminine energy up into third dimensional male/female energy field
Expression of power through actions and intellect
The relationship between our internal masculine and feminine energy forms the basis of how we interact with the world and with our “SELF”.
THE VALUE OF SEPARATION
In our higher dimensional selves, we are androgynous beings who live in complete unity with ALL THAT IS. We must remember that we have chosen to take on a third dimensional body so that we can learn from the experience of separation. Whenever we take a physical incarnation we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves through the departmentalization of time and space. Our physical selves are like scouts that forge ahead into the physical territory of separation and limitation so that we can individualize a portion of ourselves for growing and advancement.
Unfortunately, the third dimension can be an extremely difficult plane and we are often so hurt by our fear and pain that it appears, from the perspective of our human consciousness, that we have not grown at all. However, from the perspective of our Soul, it is often these painful lives in which we learn the most. Then there are lives where we have “remembered to remember” who we are. Within that remembrance is the higher guidance that can carry us through the worst situations. At the end of these incarnations we do not experience death. Instead, we experience a glorious reunion as we return Home to our true self.
THE SECRET OF INTIMACY
From the point of view of our Soul, we want to reunify with our multidimensional spiritual self, and we often try to fulfill that need of unification through relationships with other physical persons. We experience this unification through deep and loving intimacy. However, in the third dimension, deep intimacy is based on strong boundaries. If both parties of the relationship are assured that they will NOT become lost, will not become absorbed into the one with whom they are intimate, they can relax into the moments of unity.
The definition of intimacy is the removal of barriers, but it is the deliberate choice of the removal that creates the feeling of unity. If each one perceives their body and consciousness as their home, then they can take responsibility for what happens in and around them. If we had no home, if we lived on the street where we had no boundaries, we would feel so vulnerable all the time that we would not feel safe. If we do not feel safe, then we will not allow ourselves to merge with another for fear that our Self will be extinguished.
We have many words for love: I love ballgames, I love chocolate, I love competition, I love my hair. How are these loves the same as or different from deep intimate love? Also, love and fear can become so entangled that it is difficult to determine which is which. The first time we truly fall in love with someone we surrender ourselves in a fashion that we never will again. In our naivety, we have not yet experienced how much love can hurt. Then, when love returns as fear and pain, we have created no boundaries and we are deeply wounded. Then the scar tissue builds and we are afraid to try intimacy again.
It is through creating the protective boundaries around our personal essence that we can gain confidence that we will not allow another to steal who we are. If we see our ‘self’ as our home, we can take the responsibility of maintaining that “home”. We can choose to “keep the door closed” and find intimacy within or we can choose to “open the door” and invite someone into our Heart. Would we allow just anyone into our home? Would we allow them to take anything that they want or destroy our possessions? NO! We must think of our heart like our home. We have in our heart what is most valuable to us and we can choose to share it with others—WHEN IT IS SAFE! We would not invite a burglar into our home and we do not want to invite into our heart one who would harm us.
As we mature and learn to differentiate between our fear of intimacy and a warning form our higher self that this person is not safe, we can feel confident enough to experience deep intimacy. When we love ourselves, we will not allow others to harm us. However, love is not just about protecting and receiving. Love, true interpersonal love, is about giving. We cannot give away what we do not have and if we cannot love ourselves, then we cannot love another. True love is based upon acceptance. Only if we truly accept ourselves, can we truly accept another. When we can learn Unconditional Love we will activate our High Hearts, but that is often not until the Kundalini has reached our Crown Chakra.